起初的喜欢是基于感官上的
男配角很帅气
还会画漫画

后来是被里面的语言感动的

特别是他们在MSN聊天时的对话

LOVE IS FRIENDSHIP ON FIRE，RIGHT？

最后大家都明白一个道理

the one you are looking for is already in front of you~

The movie centers around a single-parent family whose members try to seek love in the relatively alienated society. All through the film does one sense the “painful pleasure”, the same way as Hemingway’s heroes share “despairing courage”. It’s painful, because single-parent families do suffer a lot, especially the lack of love and fun of a traditional nuclear family.

To go back to the film, the children, be they young or old, have to adapt themselves to new environment every time they move around. The children are innocent, but they seem to be reconciled to reality, whether they don’t want to lose friends, or have to repeatedly outperform themselves in order to be recognized. Even the mother in the film suffers tremendously. Her unhappiness and depression cast a shadow on other family members in turn. On the other hand, we can still get pleasure from watching this movie, for it does have a happy ending. The happy ending comes from the fact that all family members don’t los e faith, no matter how indifferent the world is towards them, and the “perfect man” isn’t un unreal thing.

The shining point in the film is its conceptions. E-mail, one of the means for communication in the modern world which has been condemned since its appearance, serves as a thread for the film and shows its positive aspects for interpersonal relationship. In the movie, for instance, the Father-and -Mother relationship improves thanks to the e-mail. What else can be seen is men’s inability and impotency to deal with each other, which accords with the characteristics of post-modernism or modernism. The most interesting or rather touching plot in the film is when the truth comes out, mother forgives father as expected, but mother follows suits by pretending to be somebody else behind helping her daughter find the perfect man, which is unexpected.

The title of the film has many interpretations. Firstly, on the surface, the perfect man is the one found by daughter to be exactly the man for mother. Because of his same interest with mother and his “magic power” to understand mother, he is referred to as the perfect man. Secondly, the daughter, who understands mother’s need and agony, turns out to be the perfect man. In this sense, the perfect man never exists but is made up by the “perfect” daughter. Thirdly, regardless of daughter’s efforts and all chance encounters, the perfect man in reality is the one who is around us but hasn’t been noticed by us. This notion is both encouraging and despairing, for we can be sure that there is a right man or woman for us, but it seems to be difficult to recognize him or her.

From the movie, the playwriter’s attitudes towards love is traceable as well. The contrasts between the perfect man and the colleague (baker) serve as a good example. Like knows alike. The perfect man likes doing word puzzles and watching the moon, as mother does, and he picks the right music and flowers which favor mother very much. On the contrary, despite great love for mother, the colleague doesn’t know or will never know mother’s cup of tea. In the end, the playwriter makes mother choose the perfect man over the colleague, from which we can see the perfect man in the mind of the playwriter is the one who can read one’s heart.

There are also a few minor flaws in the film. For example, the chance encounter between the daughter and the perfect man is a really made-up plot; without her classmate, they wouldn’t have met each other. Besides, such minor characters as the classmate is really minor, who isn’t fully portrayed as a human being. What’s more, the ending is too perfect to believe, with the two pairs coming together.

All in all, it’s a good film. It’s a film giving account of our life in the solitary society and offering a way out to a certain degree.

Everytime you're dumped by a man you will move to a new place to meet someone else. Actually, you're avoiding yourself. Hilary Duff was tired of changing her address again and again and she complained that her mum never cared her feeling. In order to settle down in the new palce, she helped her mum to find the perfect man. Meanwhile, she find out that her mum gave up her dream to raise the family by herself. In the end, Hilary Duff not only has her homepage, but a home.

最初以为这是一部以JEAN为主角的爱情片；谁知看到中间，HOLLY因为厌倦搬家而蒙骗母亲的一系列冒险行为不知不觉吸引了我的视线，于是觉得这或许是一部家庭成员互相关心的亲情片；然而，当HOLLY向JEAN坦白了自己的天真计划并承认了错误后，一直隐藏在整部影片中的焦虑感才终于清晰地体现了出来，这部影片一直在努力想要体现的想法大概是：生活中，当遇到困难时，逃避不是办法，勇敢的迎接挑战并妥善地解决它，才是真正的勇敢（冒险）。
所以，后来当ADM将自己创作的漫画送给自责的HOLLY时，虽然我不明白她为什么对那幅画的正面反应那么大，但是有一点能感觉到，那就是，总是奔波于搬家而没时间认真谈一场恋爱的HOLLY感到惧怕了；她大概是惧怕陌生的感情的到来，于是，和JEAN一样，她选择了逃避，她们又要搬家了；不过，这次提议的那个人不是JEAN，而是HOLLY。
这是个很讽刺的局面，一开始HOLLY为了不再搬家而编造了BEN的故事鼓舞JEAN，当事实拆穿后，坚强的JEAN还未提及搬家，HOLLY却因一系列陌生的苦难而先承受不了了，她几乎是愤怒地对JEAN说：你为你自己搬了那么多次家，就不能为我搬一次么？！
多么奇妙的对比！绞尽脑汁不想搬家的HOLLY在遇到了困难时却成了提出搬家的人？怎么回事呢？遗传，呃，在这里用这个词，是广义的。她从小的言传身教来自于JEAN，JEAN受挫时怎么做？逃避，搬家。作为被动搬家的HOLLY虽然对此很反感，但是当她自己也遇到困难时，她想不出更好的解决办法，所以很自然地，她打算重复母亲的办法——逃避，搬家。
感觉影片演到这里时，开始透出一点哲理的味道来：面对搬家，母女两人前后态度的对比，使这部片子从一部简单的爱情片或者亲情片升华了，不过我不知道该怎么定义这片子，不知道哲理片合不合适，呵呵
接着说，JEAN每次感情受挫就搬家，是在逃避失败后不敢面对的尴尬；HOLLY也打算照办，她们将搬家到一个陌生的地方称之为“冒险”，但实际上却只是在逃避问题，因为她们不敢面对真正的冒险——生活。
最后，想必JEAN在女儿的话语和DAM的漫画里也感悟到了这一点，她以女儿的口吻与DAM发电邮，而在电邮里探讨的却是女儿的母亲给女儿的影响和选择等问题。
这一点堪称点睛之笔，它给了JEAN一个从另一个人的角度重新审视自己的机会，以前的她总是逃避，是因为看不清自身，不敢面对困难，“不识庐山真面目，只缘身在此山中”，所以当有一天，她用女儿的身份与女儿的同龄人探讨自己时，谜底才一下子就揭开了，原来她的弱点在于逃避，而她自恃的坚强和冒险又在很大程度上影响了自己孩子处理生活的态度！
估计这种认知对JEAN的触动很大，所以，在最后一刻，JEAN改变了，她放弃了搬家的决定，并与打算开始自己的初次逃避之旅的HOLLY作了一次深入的长谈，她们终于决定，留在当地，解决困难，生活在那个她们都喜欢的地方，开始她们真正的冒险。
我喜欢这部影片，它在温情脉脉中将生活的哲理娓娓道来，单身妈妈的心酸，青春期子女的热心，热爱生活的男女在生活品位上的精雕细琢，还有困难出现时勇敢面对的勇气......生活是一场冒险，家长里短就是不可避免的考试，人没有办法一直逃避这些考试，不及格不丢人，没有人是生活的全才，不可能门门都拿一百分，有没有信心精神充沛地走进考场才是最重要的

是不是没办法控制 长大 那么我的情怀呢

能不能永远不长大

今天是本学期第一节英语课 看完了这部电影
略带甜蜜气息的电影让我的心情似乎转晴了
想家的情绪似乎也得到暂时的缓解

找到了熟悉的感觉

看到HilaryDuff就想起小学的时候
刚开始在网上看美国电影时
那种熟悉 稚嫩的情绪
超适合给那时候的我看
憧憬着大洋彼岸美国那边的生活 也想要遇到自己的Mr.Right

那时候以为很久之后才会到的十几岁 现在却已经是过去时了

想起来以前看过很多 Hilary Duff的电影
她应该是我第一个喜欢上的国外女演员

我初中的时候还在唱英语歌比赛舞台上唱过她另外一部电影《Raise Your Voice》（劲歌飞扬）的主题曲《Someone's Watching Over Me》
虽然唱这首歌的时候 已经离我第一次看那部电影 过去了好几年
这首励志的英文歌也在很早之前就已经被我听腻了

但是或许那时候的我 就有一些怀念的情怀了吧
我唱了这首几乎没有人熟知的歌曲 破了音 但是还是很高兴


现在想起Hilary Duff的电影 才发现多适合Teenager 时期的人看
我早熟 在小学的时候就看了 那时候也不会多想 只会在心里分辨出 这部电影好不好看

今天在课堂上看的时候 男主角一出 女主角一入
大概下面的剧情 和发展的情节 早已在心中默默地冒出来了

男主角最后会和女主角在一起
女主角的妈妈最后会和那个Mr.Right在一起

大概的情节也会被我猜的七七八八

或许是因为我长大了 或许是因为我看的电影多了

就算如今在电影院看电影 我一般不会去猜情节和估计故事的发展
不愿自己因此扫兴而给电影的评价低
只想自己是真正地随着导演的思路 演员的戏路走 享受一场电影而已

今天我看了希拉里·达芙的《The Perfect Man》
我想 我有多久没有看过这样一部电影了

不用多深奥 不用多大制作 不用多星光璀璨 不用多悬疑吸引
不用多大奥秘 不用多伟大 不用多奥斯卡 ......

平平凡凡的生活 体现在 电影里 变成 生活的艺术
这样 生活也 舒服了许多

想念 那个单纯地想着Mr.Right 降临的 女孩儿

Miss You Stay Real

令我觉得震惊的是这位母亲,她可以为了自己的小孩子而放弃理想,却不能体谅一直被迫搬迁的女儿的无奈和悲伤?
女儿可以为了让母亲改变,编造了谎言,可是在她发现真的有一个很不错的男人的时候,鼓起勇气为母亲争取幸福.
相对来说,我觉得母亲要更自私一些.
可能也是我现在只是作为一个女儿的立场存活着.
我们总是把母亲的爱想象的很伟大,然后把这种伟大加诸在每一个母亲的身上,使这种品格成为评价母亲的标准.但是,是否作为一个母亲,就一定要有奉献一切的精神?
如果我们这样界定的话,那么我们是否把一种超常的牺牲,当作了一种理所当然的付出呢?
我们要求母亲的,与要求别人的,为什么会有那么大的差距呢?