Desperate Housewives是女人必看的一部剧，同时也是男人必看的一部剧。剧中每个角色都被编剧赋予了一个正常人所具备的各种品性，善良、邪恶、慷慨、自私、宽容、小气，等等，并将它们放大到富有喜剧效果。从任何一个人身上我们都能看到人类光明温暖的一面，同时也有阴暗冷酷的一面（值得一提的是，阴暗的一面往往也是为了他们所爱的人的幸福，或者自己免受伤害而表现出来的），令我们又爱又恨，这是何等的真实！我们生活在跟Desperate Housewives一样的世界里，尽管夸张，很多时候我们自己就是那剧中的人。

Desperate Housewives第4季的第10集，McClusky在撒Ida的骨灰之前朗诵的这首小诗，感人至深。
Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I'm not there.
I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints of snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn's rain.
Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there.
I did not die.
不要在我墓前哭泣
我未曾停驻
我不曾沉眠
风是我的呼吸
看皑皑白雪为我起舞
在西部荒野金色田园中漫步
雨是我的流连
不要在我墓前哭泣
我不在那里
我从未离开

事实上，这首小诗本身就是一个传奇。在国外的葬礼上、或是纪念战争的追思会上往往都可以听到它被朗诵。它有很多个版本，至于哪个版本是首创，众说纷纭；甚至对于它的原作者，也存在争议。因为从开始到现在，它就没有被正式出版过。
为了证实这首小诗的出处，有人专门做过调查研究，从目前已有的证据来看，生于美国巴尔的摩的Mary Elizabeth Frye (1905-2004)最有可能是它的作者。据说当时Mary Frye的一位朋友的母亲去世了，这位朋友是德国籍犹太人，在那段特殊的历史时期无法回去尽孝。朋友的遭遇点燃了她的灵感，尽管自称是第一次真正尝试写诗，这首Do not stand at my grave and weep却在后来感动和安慰了无数人。又过了一段时间，那个德国家族的一些朋友把这首小诗印刷到明信片上使用，通过这种比传统的印刷出版更有利于person to person传播的“虚拟出版”，它得以广泛使用。当然，这种传播方式带来的结果也是显而易见的：一方面无法认定最初的起源，另一方面也衍生出了各种不同的版本。直到1998年，才第一次有人正式宣布了Do not stand at my grave and weep的起源——Abigail Van Buren等人的研究结果表明，它的作者是Mary Frye。

鉴于Kelly Ryan的研究，以下是最初出现在明信片上的那个版本：
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.
在2004年9月British Times报纸上，Mary Frye's的讣告里写的又是如下这个版本：
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starlight at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.
在2000年CBC 电台广播Kelly Ryan对Mary Frye的采访中，Mary Frye证实如下才是她最初创作的版本：
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am in a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room.
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there. I do not die.

所以，究竟哪个版本是首创的，是个悬案；Mary Frye是原作者这个论断，也只是依靠目前已有的证据得来的，而事情的真相，恐怕只能是千古之谜了。但是至少，Do not stand at my grave and weep这首小诗带来的感动，是确确实实的。

【注】：本文中提到的部分考据来自 http://www.businessballs.com/donotstandatmygraveandweep.htm

一部剧年份长了，主角之间就开始搞不清楚，情感纠葛永远是闪光看点。红线如天网，狭路相逢日久生情，是人就躲不过。紫藤街的男男女女都时刻准备着跳到一桩新艳遇中去。都是好收视决定了乱七八糟的感情线。

Bree是个苦命的人，Rex与Maisy Gibbons那一页刚翻过去，Bree就明珠暗投，掉进了George布下的天罗地网。识破George真面目，接着碰上了一个瘾君子。后来几经辗转认识了同样有洁癖的牙科医生，才算柳暗花明。不过Orson有他不光彩的一面，跟万人迷空姐有过一段野史，日后会不会旧病复发，谁说得准。Van De Camp家的孩子都不让人省心，Andrew正大光明地承认自己是gay，Daniel和Edie的侄子居然有了私生子。就现在来看，一个跟医生同居，一个嫁给律师，感情生活都不错，Rex在天有灵也欣慰了。

当初，Gabrielle和Carlos是合法夫妻的时候，她和小园丁John偷情。后来大吵大闹离了婚。Gabby答应嫁给模范政客Victor后，大喜的日子无意中得知自己竟是竞选工具，她脑子一热，开始跟Carlos偷情。John跟富家小姐订婚后，在岳父家经营的酒店重逢Gabby，又添了一笔小罪恶。Gabby还曾为了光鲜的晚礼服，挺身而出约会问题少年Zack。还有个小小的插曲，Gabby在家庭聚会上开玩笑地吻了Tom，另Lynette大为吃醋，为了礼尚往来，Lynette也回吻了Carlos，Carlos不但没有一笑了之，还去回访Lynette，没有娱乐精神。至于第五季Gabby变胖，Carlos失明，家里俩女儿需要照顾，大概因为前几季折腾得太累，心灵上很需要休整。

Susan的前夫Karl一出场就为了秘书抛弃了又傻又疯的结发妻子。之后两人分分和和，每逢他们同时心情不好的时候，就会找对方谈心，以便第二天一睁眼就能看到对方，平添自己的堵心。Susan自己也不怎么检点，在医院看望昏迷的Mike那会，顺便搭上了隔壁病房的Ian，Mike醒来居然还是跟她复合了，结婚了，可见Mike那次车祸之后留下了严重的后遗症，看不清该女的真面目。第五季一上来就来了油漆工Jackson，终于成功转移了蓝领控的视线，也让Mike能喘口气，跟懂事又会照顾人的Catherine开始一段新恋情，这样Mike肯定能活得更久更健康。不过看到queer as folk里的Brian跟傻大姐深情对望，总觉得是个很有喜感的画面。

Catherine也不容易，Sylvia千里迢迢跑来抢Adam，气焰不足动机却昭然，还好最后被飓风卷走了事。如今前夫成往事，不知道她跟Mike的遭遇会怎样铺陈。

在这个暗涌重重的社区，Lynette家有着难得的安定祥和，即使第三季出了个又帅又有品而且烧饭一级棒的Rick，似乎也就化作盥洗室里的一场怀缅，知己明朝成路人。Tom和Lynette的婚姻有四个孩子做后盾，加上Lynette的智慧和Tom的忠实，固若金汤。不过儿子就有麻烦了，Porter竟然爱上有夫之妇Ann，还计划私奔。如今Porter奸情暴露，惹上纵火的嫌疑，Lynette又要重装上阵拯救地球了。希望她依然好运。

SATC里，Samantha是曼哈顿的奇女子，紫藤街也有一位作派豪迈的女人。虽说Edie的智商情商运气都比Samantha略输一筹，可她直来直去，敢爱敢恨，也赢得不少人气——起码比Susan有人缘。Edie对爱情的态度非常勇敢，第一季跟Susan抢Mike，使出杀手锏烈日擦车，成为我印象最深刻的DH众生相之一。后来听说Susan要跟Mike同居，Edie抢先一步让Karl搬进自己家。第三季终于受不了Karl的不靠谱，转而打亲子牌攻陷Carlos，为保存战斗成果连上吊这招都用上了。最后还是一场空。还好Mike醒来第一眼看到了Edie，总算给了她收复失地的机会。某一集里Bree和Orson吵架把人家赶到街上，失落的Orson坐在门口，正巧Edie驾车经过，没寒暄几句就请Orson去家里睡沙发了。我当时一头冷汗，这些白眼的有妇之夫们是不会欣赏Edie的啊，Edie老收容无良浪子干嘛。第五季Edie携多金又热心的老公风光归来，可谓衣锦还乡，可是Dave已经犯下命案，在执子之手这条路上，他陪她走不远了。

紫藤街发生过很多情感纠纷，女人之间却没留下深仇大恨。大概女人是天生的政治家，懂得在亦敌亦友的平衡里彼此欣赏和激励，不走极端。所以超市里有人持枪喝令，Susan和Edie还有心情为鸡毛蒜皮拌嘴；窗外龙卷风呼啸，Edie和Gabby相拥着坦陈心迹；白马酒吧内火光和浓烟交织，Gabby扶着妄想用钱买走Carlos的Virginia安全突围。

插句题外话，主妇们平时一起打牌，喝下午茶，八卦家长里短，探讨怎么保持身材，如何教育孩子，这些在点滴小事里花的微妙心思，是男人们永远体会不到的。他们通常只在一起喝啤酒看球，能玩乐队已经是了不起的新花样，何况动机不纯。

第五个年头了。谁是谁的soulmate，谁又是过客，谁曾动了真心，谁耍了手腕，谁在紧要关头惊慌失措，谁力挽狂澜，谁志得意满，谁头破血流，谁让原本打算冷眼旁观的我们身临其境。生活波澜壮阔，剧本也一样，明天熟面孔又有新故事。敬请期待。

以上。
DH死忠粉丝小耗子。

献给所有曾经追过DH的剧迷，前三季是由风软的hellenshan整理的，后面五季全是我对着字幕自己整理的，少了几集，有所错误在所难免。字幕基本上都是来自人人，YDY，风软，圣城







101. 　　An odd thing happens when we die. Taste, touch, smell, and sound become a distant memory, but our sight --ah, our sight expands, and we can suddenly see the world we've left behind so clearly. Of course, most of what's visible to the dead could also be seen by the living, if they'd only take the time to look. 我们死去以后就会有奇怪的事情发生，我们的感觉消失了，味觉、触觉和听觉都成为遥远的回忆，但是我们的视觉，它变得开阔了。我们能突然把被我们扔在身后的这个世界看清楚。当然，大多数死人能看见的世界，活着的人也能看清楚，只要他们愿意花时间去看。 　

　102. 　　As I look back at the world I left behind, it's all so clear to me: the beauty that waits to be unveiled, the mysteries that long to be uncovered. But people so rarely stop to take a look, they just keep moving. It’s a shame really, there’s so much to see. 　　当我回头看看身后这个世界时；我看的如此清晰。有那么多有待发现的美丽；和那么多有待揭幕的神秘；但是人们很少会停下来看上一眼。他们只是不停的往前走，这真的很遗憾。。。。有那么多值得一看的东西！ 　　 　

　103. 　　Yes, I remember the world --every detail. And what I remember most is how afraid I was. What a waste. You see, to live in fear is not to live at all. I wish I could tell this to those I left behind, but would it do any good? Probably not. I understand now -- there will always be those who face their fears... and there will always be those who run away. 　　是的，我记得这个世界的每一个细节；而我记的最多的是我有多害怕；真是浪费。你看，住在恐惧中并不是真正的活着！我希望能告诉活在我身后世界的人们这个道理，但是会有用吗？可能并不会。我现在明白，总是会有人要面对他们的恐惧；也总有人会选择逃避 　　 　　

104. 　　When I was alive, I maintained many different identities --lover, wife, and ultimately, victim. Yes, labels are important to the living. They dictate how people see themselves. 　　当我活着的时候，我保持着很多不同的身份——恋人，妻子，最终是受害者。是的，这样那样的标签对于活着的人们来说是很重要的，因为它指示了人们怎么看待自己。 　　 　　

105. 　　People, by their very nature, are always on the lookout for intruders. Trying to prevent those on the outside from getting in. But there will always be those who force their way into our lives, just as there will be those we invite in. But the most troubling of all will be the ones who stand on the outside looking in...the ones we never truly get to know. 　　人本能都在寻找入侵者；阻止别人从外面闯入。但总有些人强行闯入我们的生活；正如那些被我们邀请进入我们生活圈的人一样。但最令人头疼的是；那些站在外面向里面偷窥的人；是一些你根本无法去了解的人~！ 　　 　　

其它： 　　Life was suddenly full of possibilities, not to mention a few unexpected surprises. 生命充满了各种各样的可能，还有一些意想不到的惊喜。 　　 　　

The beauty that waits to be unveiled, the mysteries that long to be uncovered. But people so rarely stop to take a look, they just keep moving. It's a shame really, there's so much to see. 　　有那么多待发现的美丽，和那么有待揭幕的神秘。但人们很少会停下来看一眼，他们只是不停地往前走。这真是令人遗憾，有那么多丰富多采的事物等着去看啊。 　　 　　

We are all searching for someone, that special person who will provide us what's missing in our lives. Someone who can offer companionship...or assistance...or security. And sometimes, if we search very hard, we can find someone who provides us...with all three. Yes, we're all searching for someone, and if we can't find them, we can only pray they find us. 　　我们一直在寻寻觅觅，寻找着一位能弥补我们生命中缺陷的与众不同的人。给予友谊，或是帮助，又或者是安全的人。有些时候，要是我们能努力地寻求，我们甚至会找到能把以上三种东西都给予我们的人。是的，我们都在寻觅着，如果我们一无所获，那只能祈祝寿他们能找到我们。 　

　 　　We've all done something in our lives we're ashamed of. Some of us have fallen for the wrong man. Some have let go of the right woman. There are those who have humiliated their parents and those who have failed their children. Yes, we've all made mistakes that diminish us and those we love. But there is redemption if we try to learn from those mistakes and grow. 　　在生活中，我们都做过一些我们为之羞愧的事情。我们中一些人爱错了男人，会错过合适的女人。有使他们的父母丢脸的孩子，有让他们的孩子失望的父母。是的，我们都会犯错，让爱我们的人离去。但还是有挽回的机会，只要我们试着从这些错误中汲取经验教训，从而成长。 　　 　

Everyone enjoys a game of make-believe now and then. Of course, the ways in which we play can vary greatly. Sometimes, we tell ourselves work won't interfere with our family life. Sometimes we imagine certain relationships to be more meaningful than they really are. Occasionally we put on a show, as if to convince ourselves our secrets aren't really all that terrible. Yes, the game of make-believe is a simple one. You start by lying to yourself. And if you can get others to believe those lies, you win. 　　每一个人总喜欢时不时地自欺欺人。当然了，我们每人的表达方式不尽相同。有时我们告诉自己我作不会影响家庭，有时我们幻想某段关系比实际的有有意义。有时我们会掩饰，好像这样能安慰自己我们的秘密并不是真的那么可怕。是的，自欺欺人的游戏很简单。只要你说服自己谎言是真的。要是你能可以让全世界相信这是真的，那么你就是赢家。 　　 　

The world is filled with good fathers. How do we recognize them? They're the ones who are missed so terribly that everything falls apart in their absence. They're the ones who love us long before we've even arrived. They're the ones who come looking for us when we can't find our way home. Yes, the world is filled with good fathers. And the best are the ones who make the women in their lives...feel like good mothers. 　　世间好爸爸到处都有。我们又如何辨认呢？他们不在身边时我们会如此地想念到要崩溃，他们在孩子还未出生前就深爱着我们，他们在我们迷失回家的路时找到我们。是的，世间处处有好父亲。而最好的父亲就是那些能让生命中的女人觉得自己是最好的母亲的人。 　　 　　

You see, to live in fear is not to live at all. there will always be those who face their fears...and there will always be those who run away. 　　恐惧的生活根本不能算是生活。总有一些人勇于面对他们的恐惧，但总有一些人会选择逃避。 　　 　　

Sooner or later, the time comes when we all must become responsible adults and learn to give up what we want so we can choose to do what is right. Of course, a lifetime of responsibility isn't always easy. And as the years go on, it's a burden that can become too heavy for some to bear. But still, we try to do what is best, what is good--But for those we love. 　　迟早，我们都会成为有责任心的成年人，从而为正确学会了放弃。当然，终其一生的责任不会总是简单。随着岁月的流长，一些人会不负重担。但是，我们依然尽力而为——为了我们所爱的人。 　　 　　

We all honor heroes for different reasons. Sometimes for their daring. Sometimes for their bravery. Sometimes for their goodness. But mostly we honor heroes, because at one point or another, we all dream of being rescued. Of course, if the right hero doesn't come along, sometimes we just have to rescue ourselves. 　　我们都有各种理由去尊敬英雄。有的是因为英雄的胆识，有的是因为勇气，有的是善良。但我们尊敬英雄的大部分原因，多多少少是因为我们都幻想着被拯救。当然，要是真正的英雄没有出现，有时，我们就只有自我拯救了。 　　 　　

Everyone in the world needs someone they can depend on--be they faithful friends, determined advocates or a loving family. But occasionally in life, the people who we thought would always be there for us, leave. And if that happens, it's amazing the lengths we'll go to to get them back. 　　每一个人都需要依靠——忠实的朋友，坚定的拥护者或者是充满爱意的家庭。但有时候，我们以为会永远守护着我们的人，离去了。真是那样的话，我们就得为找回他们而走上漫漫长路。 　　 　　

Yes, cameras are tools designed to capture images. But in truth, they can capture so much more. They can uncover hidden longing of men who should no longer care. They can reveal the extraordinary secrets of the most ordinary marriages. Most amazing of all, cameras can quietly and clearly reveal to us our dreams--dreams we didn't even know we had. 　　是的，照相机是用来捕捉画面的。但事实上，它能捕捉到更多东西。它能揭示一个你从不在意的男人心底隐藏的渴望；它能泄露许多普通婚姻的天大的秘密；最惊人的是，相机可以在不知觉中告知我们自己的梦想——我们从未意识到已拥有的梦想。 　　 　　

In a world filled with darkness, we all need some kind of light. Whether it's a great flame that shows us how to win back what we've lost, or a powerful beacon intended to scare away potential monsters...or a few glowing bulbs that reveal to us the hidden truth of ur past...we all need something to help us get through the night...even if it's just the tiniest glimmer of hope. 　　在一个黑暗的世界里，我们都需要光明。也许是一束让我们知道怎么挽回失去的东西的光明，也许是一座能驱走潜伏着的恶魔的灯塔；又也许是几个照亮了掩蔽着的我们过去的真相……我们都需要帮助来渡过黑夜，哪怕只是最微弱的希望的光芒。 　　 　　

106： 　　The search for power begins when we're quite young. As children, we're taught that the power of good triumphs over the power of evil. But as we get older, we realize that nothing is ever that simple.Traces of evil always remain. 　　权力的追求始于我们年少之时。当还是孩子的时候，我们就受到“邪不能胜正”的教育。但随着年龄的增长，我们意识到没有单一的事物。邪恶如影随行。 　　

　　107： 　　Competition , it means different things to different people. But whether to friendly rivalry, or fight to the death . The end result is the same . There will be winners, and there will be losers, Of course the trick is , to know which battles to fight, you see, no victory comes without a price. 　　竞争因人而异，但是不管是友好竞争还是生死决斗，结果总是相同的――有赢家，也有输家。但是，诀窍是，懂得去参加什么样的竞争。要知道，胜利都是用代价换来的。

　　 　　108： 　　there is a widely-read book that tells us everyone is sinner. Of course, not everyone feels guilt over the bad things they do . in contrast , there are those who assume more than their share of the blame , there are others who soothe their consciences with small eggs of kindness. or by telling themselves their sins were justified. Finally there are the ones who simply vow to do better next time. And pray for forgiveness , some times there prayers are answered. 　　有一本流行的书告诉我们“每个人都是罪人”。当然了，不是每个人看了这书都对他们所作的坏事感到愧疚。相反的，有些人认为那应该比应受的谴责更多；还有些人用他们善意的小事安抚他们的良心；或者告诉他们自己，他们的罪行是正当的；最后，有些人会发誓，下次会做好些，然后为了饶恕而祈祷。有时，他们的祈祷被回应了。 　　 　　

109： 　　People are complicated creatures. On the one hand able to perform great acts of charity ,on the other , capable of the most underhanded forms of betrayal, it is a constant battle that rages within all of us ,because the better angels of our nature, and the temptation of our sinner demons, and sometimes the only way to ward off darkness, is to share a light of compassion. 　　人类是复杂的动物。一方面，表现着善心，另一方面，却又干阴险地背叛。我们都时常在天性的本善与内心的恶魔之间挣扎。有时候，唯一能阻挡黑暗的方法，就是闪耀怜悯的光辉。 　　 　　

110： 　　trust is a fragile thing, once earned , it affords us tremendous freedom, but once trust is lost , it can be impossible to recover, of course ,the truth is we never know who we can trust , those we ‘re closest to can betray us , and total strangers can come to our rescue ,in the end, most people decide to only trust themselves, it really way is the simplest way , to keep from getting burned. 　　信任真是一件脆弱的东西，一旦赢得了，会提供给我们巨大的空间。而一旦失去了，就不可能再恢复了。当然，事实上我们永远不知道我们能信任谁：那些我们最亲近的人可能会背叛我们，而陌生人却能帮助我们。最后，大多数人决定只能信任他们自己。这的确是简单的办法，来防止引火上身。 　　 　　

111: 　　We are all search for some one , the special person that who are provide us are missing in our lives, some one who can offer compassion ship, or resistance or security , and sometimes if we search very hard we can find someone who provide ourselves, with all three, yes for all searching for someone, and if we can’t find them , we can only pray, they will find us. 　　我们都在寻找一个人，他能带来我们生活中所缺少的东西：有些人能提供陪伴，或是帮助，或是安全。有时候如果我们努力寻找，我们能找到能同时提供以上三者的人。是的，我们都在寻找一个人，如果我们找不到他们，那我们只能祈祷，他会找到我们。 　　 　　

112： 　　Death is inevitable, it’s a promise made to each of us at birth , but before that promise is kept, we all hope something will happen to us, whether the thrill of romance, the joy of raising a family, or the anguish of great loss, we all hope experience something that makes our lives meaningful, but the sad fact is not all lives have meaning ,some people spend their time on this planet just sitting on the sidelines, waiting for something to happen to them, before it’s too late. 　　死亡无法逃避，那是上帝在我们一出生时就许下的诺言。但是在诺言兑现之前，我们都希望会有些事情发生，不管那是浪漫激情、养育孩子的快乐还是巨大损失的悲痛，我们都希望经历一些让生命有意义的事情。但不幸的是，并不是所有的生命都有意义，一些人只是天天坐视旁观，等待着一些事情发生到他们身上――在还没太晚之前。 　　 　　

113： 　　Sooner or later , the time comes when we all must become responsible adults, and learn to give up what we want , So we can choose to do what is right, of course , a life time of responsibility , is not always easy , and as the years go on, it’s a burden that can become too heavy to bear , but still we try to do what is best, what is good, not only for ourselves, but for those we love, yes ,sooner or later , we must all become responsible adults, no one knows this better than the young man. 　　或早或晚，总有一天，我们都必须成为负责任的成年人。学会放弃我们想要的东西，那我们就能选择去做正确的事情。当然，要做到一辈子负责任，不总是那么简单的。随着时间的流逝，对某些人而言，那将成为不能承受之重负。但我们依然试图做得最好，使它有利于，不仅仅自己，还有我们所爱的人。是啊，或早或晚，我们都必须成为负责任的成年人。没有人比年轻人更懂得这一点。 　　 　　

114： 　　It's impossible to grasp just how powerful love is , it can sustain us through trying times, or motivate us to make extraordinary sacrifices ,it can force decent man to commit darkest deeds, or compel ordinary woman to search for hidden truths, and long after we are gone, love remains , burned into our memories, we all search for love, but some of us , after we’ve found it ,wish we hadn't. 　　我们不能理解爱是如何的强大，它能支持我们度过困难时光，或激励我们作出非同寻常的牺牲。它能使最正派的男人做出最黑暗的事，或促使普通的女人寻找隐藏的真相。在我们过世很久以后，爱依然存在，深深刻在我们的记忆中。我们都在寻找爱，但我们中的一些人，在我们找到爱之后，宁愿希望没找到过。 　　 　

　115： 　　Yes , each new day in suburbia brings with it a new set of lies. The worst are the ones we tell ourselves before we fall asleep , we whisper them in the dark to ourselves, telling ourselves we are happy , or that he is happy , that we are change , or that he will change his mind, we persuade ourselves we can live with our sins, or that we can live without him , yes each night before we fall asleep , we lie to ourselves , the desperate ,desperate hope , that come morning ,it will all be true 　　是的，新的一天的到来，总是伴随着一系列的谎言，其中最糟糕的是那些自己用来骗自己的。在入睡之前，我们告诉自己，我们很快乐，或者他很快乐；我们可以改变，或者他会改变。我们说服自己带着罪恶继续生活，或者我们没有他也一样可以生活。是的，每天晚上在我们入睡之前，我们对自己说谎，近乎绝望、绝望地希望着。 　　 　　 　　 　

　116： 　　Yes ,everyone love the scandal , no matter how big of small ,after all , what could be more entertaining . that watching the downfall of the high and mighty ? what could be more amusing ,than the public exposure of hypocritical sinners. Yes, everyone loves a scandal, and if for some reason ,you are not enjoying the latest one…well ,the next one is always around the corner. 　　每个人都喜欢丑闻，或大或小。毕竟，有什么比看到别人从高峰跌倒低谷更令人愉快呢？有什么能比丑陋的隐私被公布于众更另人感到有趣呢？是的，每个人都喜欢丑闻，如果因为某些原因你不喜欢最新的丑闻，没关系，下一个很快就要来临。 　　 　　

117： 　　We all honor heroes for different reasons , sometimes for their daring , sometimes for their bravery , sometimes for their goodness, but mostly we honor heroes , because at one point or another, we all dream to be rescued ,of course if the right heroes doesn’t come along , sometimes we just have to rescue by ourselves . 　　我们都因为各种各样的原因崇拜英雄：有时是因为他们敢于冒险，有时是因为他们的勇敢，有时是因为他们的善良。但是绝大部分，是因为，或多或少，我们都梦想着被拯救。当然，如果我们盼望着的英雄没有出现，有时候，我们就必须自我拯救了。 　

　 　　118： 　　Children come into the world with its own agendas, some to brighten our days , some to test our patience , some to give up purpose , some to take care of us , yes when they come , children change everything. Especially when they’re not invited. 　　孩子们带着他们的使命来到人世间：有些孩子来点亮我们的生活，有些孩子来考验我们的耐心，有些孩子让我们充满目标，有些孩子则是来照顾我们自己。是的，当孩子来了之后他们改变了一切，尤其当他们是不请自来的时候。 　　 　　


119： 　　Yes, life is a journey, one that is much better traveled with a companion by our side. Of course, that companion can be just about anyone: a neighbor on the other side of the street...or the man on the other side of the bed. The companion can be a mother with good intentions...or a child who's up to no good. Still, despite our best intentions, some of us will lose our companions along the way. And then the journey becomes unbearable. You see, Human beings are designed for many things, But loneliness isn't one of them. 　　是的，生命如同旅程，最好能与人结伴同行。当然，不同的人都会成为同伴：住在街道对面的邻居，或者是睡在枕边的人，望子成龙的母亲，又或是捣蛋的小孩。但是，尽管我们有着最好的愿望，有些人会在旅途中失去同伴，接着旅程就会令人无法忍受。你看，人类能应对许多问题，但孤独并不在其中。 　　 　　

120： 　　Spring comes every year to Wisteria Lane. But not everyone remembers to stop and smell the flowers. Some are too busy worrying about the future or mistakes they've made in the past. Others are preoccupied with not getting caught or thinking of ways to catch someone else. Still, there will always be a few who remember to take a moment and appreciate what Spring has given them, just as there will always be those who prefer to sit in the dark, brooding over everything they've lost. 　　每年，春天都会来到韦斯特瑞街。但并不是每一个人都会停下脚步去欣赏风景。有的人总是为未来或过去犯下的错误而担忧，有的人老在想着逃脱或是追捕。但有人还是依然会记得花些时间去好好欣赏春天给他们带来的礼物。正如还有一些人，宁愿坐在黑暗中，埋怨着他们的所失。 　　

121： 　　The vow is simple, really. Those who take it promise "to stay together, for better or for worse, 　　for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to honor and to cherish, for saking all others until death do us part." Yes, the vow is simple. Finding someone worthy of such a promise 　　is the hard part. But if we can, that's when we begin to live happily ever after. 　　发誓很简单，真的。人们许下诺言：“无论好与坏，贫与富，病痛与健康，不离不弃，相敬相爱，直到永远。”是的，誓言是简单，找到值得为其许下这个誓言的人才是困难的。但要是我们找到了，那就是从此幸福地生活在一起的故事的开始。 　　 　　

122： 　　Nothing is forever. And the time comes when we all must say goodbye to the world we know. Goodbye to everything we had taken for granted. Goodbye to those we thought would never abandon us. And when these changes finally do occur, when the familiar has departed and the unfamiliar has taken its place, all any of us can really do is to say hello and welcome. 　　没有什么事情是永恒的。当时间到来，我们不得不挥手告别熟悉的世界。告别我们深知的一切，告别认为会永不抛弃我们的人。当这些改变最终发生的时候，当熟悉远离而陌生来临的时候，我们所能做到的，就是说声“你好，欢迎”。 　　 　　

123-124： 　　It's an odd thing to look back on the world , to watch those I left behind. Each, in her own way , so brave so determined, and so very desperate , desperate to venture out, but afraid of what she’ll miss when she goes. Desperate to get everything she wants, even when she is not exactly sure of what that is, desperate for life to be perfect again, Although she realizes their never really was, desperate for a better future, if she can find a way to escape her past , I am not only watch, I cheer them on , these amazing women, I hope so much that they’ll find what they’re looking for , but I know not all them will. Sadly… that’s just not the way life works, not everyone gets a happy ending. 　　回过头来注视这个世界，注视我身后的这些人，让我觉得很奇怪：每个人都是那么勇敢坚定，但又如此地不顾一切。不顾一切地想要出走，但又舍不得因为出走而失去的代价；不顾一切想要得到所有想要的东西，即使他自己还不知道到底要什么；不顾一切地想要生活重归完美，尽管他意识到生活从未完美过；不顾一切地想要一个更美好的未来，欧办法能摆脱他的过去。我不只是注视，还为这些了不起的女人们加油，我真心希望她们能够心想事成。但我知道，她们中不是每个人都称心如意。可惜的是，生活就是这样，不是每个故事都有幸福的结局。


<绝望的主妇>第二季结束语:202、Control. It's extraordinary the tactics people employ to obtain it. Some rely on deception, while others engage in outright trickery. Then there are those who resort to extorsion. Why do we fight so hard for control? Because we know: To lose it is to put our fate in the hands of others. And what could be more dangerous? 控制，人们为了得到它真实无所不为。有些人靠诡计，有些人则用正直的把戏，还有一些人则屈服于勒索，我们为什么这么拼命的想得到控制呢？因为我们知道，一旦失去了控制，我们的命运就掌握在别人的手里了，还有什么比这更危险的呢？

203、Everyone enjoys a game of make-believe now and then. Of course, the ways in which we play can vary greatly. Sometimes we tell ourselves work won't interfere with our family life.. Sometimes, we imagine certain relationships to be more meaningful than they really are. Occasionally, we put on a show, as if to convince ourselves our secrets aren't really all that terrible. Yes, the game of make-believe is a simple one. You start by lying to yourself... And if you can get others to believe those lies, you win. 我们总是幻想某段关系，比实际的更加美好和意义深远，有时我们则掩饰不安，像是一切总在预料之中，并不那么可怕。自欺欺人的游戏，人们乐在其中。只要你说服自己谎言是真的，你就可以让全世界都相信这是真的，然后得到想要的一切。

204、The world is filled with good fathers. How do we recognize them? They're the ones who are missed so terribly that everything falls apart in their absence. They're the ones who love us long before we've even arrived. They're the ones who come looking for us when we can't find our way home. Yes, the world is filled with good fathers. And the best are the ones who make the women in their lives...feel like good mothers.世间好爸爸到处都有。我们又如何辨认呢？他们不在身边时我们会如此地想念到要崩溃，他们在孩子还未出生前就深爱着我们，他们在我们迷失回家的路时找到我们。是的，世间处处有好父亲。而最好的父亲就是那些能让生命中的女人觉得自己是最好的母亲的人。

205、Everyone in the world needs someone they can depend on--be they faithful friends, determined advocates or a loving family. But occasionally in life, the people who we thought would always be there for us, leave. And if that happens, it's amazing the lengths we'll go to to get them back.每一个人都需要依靠——忠实的朋友，坚定的拥护者或者是充满爱意的家庭。但有时候，我们以为会永远守护着我们的人，离去了。真是那样的话，我们就得为找回他们而走上漫漫长路。

207、Yes, cameras are tools designed to capture images. But in truth, they can capture so much more. They can uncover hidden longing of men who should no longer care. They can reveal the extraordinary secrets of the most ordinary marriages. Most amazing of all, cameras can quietly and clearly reveal to us our dreams--dreams we didn't even know we had.是的，照相机是用来捕捉画面的。但事实上，它能捕捉到更多东西。它能揭示一个你从不在意的男人心底隐藏的渴望；它能泄露许多普通婚姻的天大的秘密；最惊人的是，相机可以在不知觉中告知我们自己的梦想——我们从未意识到已拥有的梦想。

208、In a world filled with darkness, we all need some kind of light. Whether it's a great flame that shows us how to win back what we've lost, or a powerful beacon intended to scare away potential monsters...or a few glowing bulbs that reveal to us the hidden truth of ur past...we all need something to help us get through the night...even if it's just the tiniest glimmer of hope.在一个黑暗的世界里，我们都需要光明。也许是一束让我们知道怎么挽回失去的东西的光明，也许是一座能驱走潜伏着的恶魔的灯塔；又也许是几个照亮了掩蔽着的我们过去的真相……我们都需要帮助来渡过黑夜，哪怕只是最微弱的希望的光芒。

209、It's not always that easy to distinguish the good guys from the bad guys. Sinners can surprise you. And the same is true for saints. Why do we try to define people as simply good or simply evil? Because no one wants to admit that compassion and cruelty can live side by side in one heart. And that anyone is capable of anything. 我们并不总是能够很清楚的分辨好人和坏人的，有罪的人会让你大吃一惊，圣人也会。为什么我们要把人简单的分成纯粹的好人和纯粹的魔鬼呢？因为没有人会愿意承认残暴和仁慈会存在于同一个身体里……也不会承认自己会干出任何事情

210、The stories are as old as time itself. The prodigal son who returns home to the father who forgives him. The jealous wife who tricks the husband who trusts her. The desperate mother who risks everything for the child who needs her. And the faithless husband who hurts the wife who loves him so deeply. Why do we listen again and again? Because these are the stories of family, and once we look past the fighting, pain and the resentment? We occasionally like to remind ourselves...there is absolutely nothing more important. 故事依旧是那个古老的故事。浪子回头金不换，善父宽容抛前嫌，欲妻讹夫骗信任，慈母护子为哪般，为父不忠留妻绝，为何故事一遍又一遍，只因事关一家人。蓦然回首，须自省，家为首。

211、The act itself never varies. But each kiss carries with it a meaning all its own. It can convey a husband's eternal devotion. Or a wife's enormous regret. It can symbolize a mother's growing concern. Or a lover's growing passion. But whatever its meaning, each kiss reflects a basic human need. The need to connect to another human being. This desire is so strong it's always amazing when some people don’t understand it." 动作是千篇一律的，但每个吻带着各自的含义。他能传达丈夫永久的专一，或妻子莫大的懊悔，它象征母亲日益剧增的担心，或情人的无限的激情。但他无论象征着什么，每个吻，反映了人们最基本的一种需求，与另一个心灵的沟通，这种需求如此强烈，他令人惊讶不已，特别是在哪些，不理解他的人眼里。

212、Illness can take on many forms. Those of the body are easy to treat. Much more difficult are the hidden maladies that fester in our hearts. The secret addictions that consume our souls. And the diseases we deny which affect our judgment. To survive we need to find that special someone who can heal us. But we can never predict who have the cure for what ails us. Or when they'll show up. 疾病有很多种表现方式，身体上的容易治疗，困难的是隐藏在心灵深处的伤痛，不为人知的迷恋让我们的灵魂中毒，讳疾忌医会困惑我们的判断，为了继续下去，我们得找到一位能帮助我们痊愈的人。但我们永远也不会料到，谁会有我们的解药，或者什么时候他们会出现。

213、Everyone understands the nature of war. We also understand that victory depends on the cards that we have been dealt. Some, when faced with a bloody battle, simply give in. But for some, surrender is unacceptable. Even though they know it will be a fight.... to the death. 所有人都明白战争规律，我们也明白胜利得靠我们打出去的牌，有些人面对一场血战的时候会草草放弃，但对有些人，投降是不可接受的，即使它们知道将会是一场……血战

214、The world is filled with unlikely friendships. How do they begin? With one person desperately in need and another willing to lend a helping hand. When such kindness is offered, we're finally able to see the worth of those we had previously written off. And before we know it, a bond has formed, regardless of whether others can understand it. Yes, unlikely friendships start up every day. No one understands this more than the lonely. In fact, it's what they count on. 这个世界充满了不可能发生而发生的友情，要问他们是怎样开始的？一个有着迫切需要，而另一个愿意伸出援助之手，当有了这样的仁慈，我们最终得以见到我之前所作的一切的价值，在我们知道以前，一条联系彼此的纽带就已形成，不管别人是否能理解，确实如此，意外的情谊天天都会发生，每人能理解他们比孤独更多。事实上，这是他们所依赖的。


215、Now and then, we all need a little help, so we ask for small favors. But it's always best to be wary of those eager to come to our rescue. Because even the smallest of favors carries a price tag. Yes, everyone has an agenda. No matter what they may tell us. And in those rare instances where there is no ulterior motive. We're so taken aback that we may fail to recognize the truth that a loving friend has just done us an enormous favor." 时不时地，我们都需要一些帮助。于是我们向他人索取一点点关切，不过对那些急来的援助，最好带着一颗机警之心。因为哪怕是最小的一点恩惠，也承担了代价，没错，每个人都有自己的打算，无论他们对我们怎么说，然后当在少有的情况下，人们抛开隐含的动机时，我们却惊诧自己没有及时发觉，一位忠实的朋友又帮了我们的大忙。

217、At that precise moment, as Dr. Hanson Mills was cutting yet another umbilical cord, other ties were being severed all over town. Like the one between a child and the mother who didn't want him to grow up so quickly, or the one between a case of fine wine and the housewife who hadn't wanted to admit that she had a problem, or the one between a woman and the boyfriend who couldn't forgive her betrayal. The choice to separate from what we love is painful. The only thing worse is when someone we've trusted makes the choice for us. 与此同时，在hanson mills医生剪脐带的时候起他的联系也被切断。母子之间的亲情联系，一个不想孩子就这么快长大的慈母，或是一箱好酒和一位主妇之间的联系，一位不愿意承认自己有问题的家庭主妇，或是一个女人和男友之间的联系，一个无法原谅女友背叛的男友，选择和我们的所爱分离是痛苦的，唯一更糟糕的是，有时候我们信任的人替我们做了这样的选择。

218、Temptation comes to all of us. Whether or not we succumb depends on our ability to recognize its disguise. Sometimes it arrives in the form of an old flame, flickering back to life. Or a new friend who could end up being so much more. Or a young child who awakens feelings we didn't know we had. And so we give in to temptation, all the while knowing come morning, we'll have to suffer the consequences. 我们每个人都面临着诱惑，我们是否向它屈服取决于我们识别他伪装的能力，有时它以一团昔日的火焰出现，重回生活中闪耀，或是一个新朋友，最后却不止是一个朋友，或一个年轻的孩子，唤醒了我们不曾知道我们拥有的感觉。当我们向诱惑妥协时，第二天早上醒来就会知道，我们将不得不承受以此带来的后果。

219、We've all done something in our lives we're ashamed of. Some of us have fallen for the wrong man. Some have let go of the right woman. There are those who have humiliated their parents and those who have failed their children. Yes, we've all made mistakes that diminish us and those we love. But there is redemption if we try to learn from those mistakes and grow. 在生活中，我们都做过一些我们为之惭愧的事情。我们中一些人爱上了错误的人，一些人放走了合适的女人，有使他们的父母丢脸的孩子，有使他们的孩子失望的父母。是的，我们都犯过错误，使我们爱的人离我们而去，但是仍然有挽回的机会，如果我们试着从这些错误中汲取经验教训，使自己成熟起来。

220、There is a prayer intended to give strength to people faced with circumstances they don’t want to accept. The power of the prayer comes from it's insight into human nature. Because so many of us rage against the hand that life has dealt us. Because so many of us are cowardly. And afraid to stand up for what is right. Because so many of us give into despair when faced with an impossible choice. The good news for those who utter these words is that God will hear you and answer your prayer. The bad news is that sometimes the answer is no. 祷文意图要赐给人们以力量，当面对他们不想接受的情况的时候。祷文的力量来自他对人类本性的深刻洞察力，因为我们中很多人对与我们作对的命运之手唯有愤怒，因为我们很多人懦夫一般的没有勇气为正义拍案而起，因为我们中的很多人对绝望妥协，当面对一个不可能的选择的时候。好消息是，对那些把那些话说出口的人，那就是上帝会听到你的祈祷并给你答复，但坏消息时，有时答复可能是否定的。


221、When the truth is ugly, people try to keep it hidden, because they know if revealed, the damage it will do. So they conceal it within sturdy walls or they place it behind closed doors or they obscure it with clever disguises but truth, no matter how ugly, always emerges. And someone we care about always ends up getting hurt. And someone else will revel in their pain and that's the ugliest truth of all. 当真相是丑陋的时候，人们尝试将他们隐藏起来。因为人们知道，真相泄露所带来的伤害是多么严重，所以人们用严实的高墙将其藏匿起来，或者将其关闭在紧缩的门后，或者用聪明的伪装使其变得模糊。但是真相，无论多么丑陋总会浮出水面。那些我们关心的人最终还是会受到伤害，另外一些人会因为别人的伤痛而非常快乐，这才是世界上最丑陋的事实。

222、It's a shocking moment for each of us. That moment we realize we are all alone in this world. The family we take for granted could one day abandon us. The husband we trust so implicitly might betray us. The daughter we love so deeply perhaps won’t return to us. And then we could end up all by ourselves. Of course, some see great value in going it alone. For example.. 对我们每个人来说，这都是非常震惊的时刻，令我们意识到我们在这个世界上是寂寞的。我们认为理所应当的家人会突然遗弃我们，我们那么深信的丈夫也许会背叛我们，我们深爱着的女儿也许再也不会回到我们身边，我们也许只能孤独终老。当然，也有人喜欢独身一人，例如……


223-224、This is the street where I used to live, and these were the people with whom I shared my life. I met them the day they moved in. And I saw what they brought with them beautiful dreams for the future. And quiet hopes for a better life, not just for themselves, but for their children, too. If I could, would I tell them what lies ahead? Would I warn them of the sorrow and betrayal that lie in store? No. From where I stand now, I see enough of the road to understand how it must be traveled. The trick is to keep moving forward, to let go of the fear and the regret that slow us down and keep us from enjoying a journey that will be over too soon. Yes, there will be unexpected bends in the road, shocking surprises we didn't see coming, but that's really the point, don't ya think? 这就是我曾经生活过的街道，这曾是我与其分享生活的人们。从他们搬来的那一天起我们就认识了。我看到了他们所带来的对未来的美好憧憬，对更好的生活的向往，不仅仅为他们自己，还有为了他们的孩子。如果可能的话，我应该告诉他们在前方等待着的是什么吗？我应该警告他们将至的悲伤与背叛吗？不。在我所处于的位置，我自然能明白路应该如何走。秘诀就是一直向前行，放下恐惧和遗憾，因为它们会让我们放慢脚步，阻碍我们享受这转瞬即逝的旅程。是的，前方有无法预料的转折，令人措手不及的惊讶，但是，生活的意思不正在于此吗？



301Every storm brings with it hope that somehow by morning, everything will be made clean again. And even the most troubling stains will have disappeared. Like the doubts over his innocence, or the consequence of his mistake, like the scars of his betrayal,or the memory of his kiss.So we wait for the storm to pass hoping for the best, even though we know in our hearts some stains are so indelible, nothing can wash them away. 每随风暴而来的是希望——不论如何，到了早晨，一切都会变干净，即使最顽固的污点也会消失。像对清白的疑惑，错误的结果，背叛的创伤，亲吻的记忆。我们等待着风暴退却，期待着雨过天睛。即使我们清楚在心中, 有些污点是如此顽固，没有什么能将它们清除。


302Have you met the perfect couple? The two soul mates whose love never dies? The two lovers whose relationship is never threatened.The husband and wife who trust each other completely. If you haven't met the perfect couple, let me introduce you.They stand atop a layer of butter cream frosting. The secret of their success? Well, for starters, they don't have to look at each other.你有没有遇到过完美的一对，精神伴侣，他们的爱永远不死；这对恋人，他们的爱情从没受到过威胁；丈夫和妻子，完完全全信任对方？如果你没有遇见过这样的一对眷侣，让我来给你介绍这么一对：他们是站在奶油冰淇淋上的。他们成功的秘诀？——他们从来不正视对方


303We all carry something with us. Of course, it's nice if we travel with someone who can help lighten the load. But usually, it's easier to just drop what we've been carrying so we can get home that much sooner. Assuming, of course, there will be someone there to greet us when we arrive. Why do we clutch at this baggage, even when we're desperate to move on? Because we all know there's a chance we might let go too soon.我们都在负重前行。当然，能结伴而行会很幸福, 有人帮助分担重负。但通常抛掉负担会更简单。这样我们就能早日归家。设想着，当然,有人会在家迎接我们归来。为什么有人仍然抓住行李不放，即使我们不顾一切的向前看。因为我们都知道，有的机会也许我们放弃的太快。


304We all have our reasons for rewriting history.Sometimes we need to provide ourselves alibis. Sometimes we wanna hurt someone who has hurt us, and then there are times we just wanna spare ourselves embarrassment. Of course, there are some who feel that to rewrite history is just another way to lie. But what is history anyway....But a set of lies agree depend?我们都有要改写历史的原因。有时候我们需要给自己找一些托辞。有时我们想要伤害那些曾经伤害过我们的人, 有时我们只是不想自己困窘难堪。当然，有时改写历史只是另一种方式去说谎。但是，历史究竟是什么呢。。。。难道只是一系列的谎言吗？


305Sabotage, everyone is capable of it. But some go about it more cruelness than the others.阴谋破坏，每个人都能做，但有些人可以做得更加冷酷。Like the ones who create vengeance…像那些渴望复仇的人。。。Or the ones who hunger for love.像那些寻觅爱情的人。。。Or the ones who were determined to burn bridges.像那些决定一刀两断的人。。。And then there are those who simply wants something…也有些人的愿望简单而直接。。。Something that belongs to someone else有时候, 那属于其他人。


306There is a place in St. Timothy church where sinners go to confess their sins.St.Timothy 教堂有处罪人忏悔的地方And once they are done, they expect absolution当他们忏悔完，都期待能得到宽恕But the truth is, not all confessions are worthy of such forgiveness.但事实上，不是所有忏悔都值得被原谅。Most who unveil his agendas deserve the condemnation they receive.大多数人，秘密计划败露了,得到应有的谴责。Most who disclose revengeful motives marry the punishment that follows.大多数人, 报复动机暴露了,得到随之而来的惩罚Only the truly repentant at any right at all expect a second chance.只有真心悔过，才有权利获得第二次机会。Were just why it's best to think twice before you confess.这就是为什么最好在你忏悔前先三思而后行…Especially if you don’t know what it is you're confessing to.尤其是如果你不知道你在忏悔什么
307Sweetie, we can't prevent what can't predict.亲爱的，我们不能预防我们所不能预知的Isn't there anything I could do?有什么是我能做的么？Yes, yes. You can enjoy this beautiful day.你可以享受这美丽的一天。We get so few of them.我们很少有这样的一天


308There are so many things we wish we could tell the young 有太多的事情我们想要告诉孩子们We'd like to persuade them not to grow up so fast我们想说服他们，不要这么快就长大。But they won't listen.但他们听不进去。We want to tell them the beauty face but they refuse to believe it.我们想告诉他们，花容总有凋谢的一天，但他们拒绝相信。We worn them that their actions will have consequences, but still they defy us.我们警告他们，他们的所作所为会有后果，但他们仍然不予理睬。Suddenly the young can began to understand the world is a dangerous place.终有一天，孩子们会意识到这个世界是危险的So it’s up to us to do anything we can to protect them所以我们要做的就是，尽一切可能来保护他们Absolutely anything不惜一切代价。


309Dangerous men walk among us.危险的人在我们之中潜伏。And we can’t always be sure who they are or what secret they hide.我们不是总能肯定他们是谁，或者他们隐藏着怎样的秘密。But once our suspicious are confirmed 但是最可怕的疑虑得到证实。We can take action.我们就可以采取行动。Once their agenda were revealed 一旦他们的行事议程被揭露。We can take steps to protect ourselves and those we love.我们就能采取措施保护自己和我们爱的人。Yes, dangerous men can cause great harm是的，危险的人会造成巨大的伤害。But sometimes the greatest dangerous they pose is to themselves.但是人有时候他们所做有最危险的事, 是对他们自己做的。


310There's a reason people can't wait for Christmas, and it has little to do with family reunions.人们等不及过圣诞节的理由和家人团聚没有任何关系。Or curling up with a cup of eggnog.或是为了蜷缩着喝一杯蛋酒。with that unexpected kiss beneath the mistletoe.又或是槲寄生下那个意料的吻。or receiving a present from a special someone.或是收到某个特殊的人送来的礼物。no, people look forward to Christmas.不是的，人们期待圣诞节的到来。because they know, it's a time for miracles.因为他们知道，是时候...出现奇迹了...


312It's a dangerous world. So we all look for protection.And whether we find it in the arms of our mother,or at the end of a jagged blade, or in the kiss of our sweetheart, or at the end of a barrel. We do what we have to to feel safe. Because we know somewhere in the world there are those who would do us harm.这个世界危机四伏，所以我们都会寻求保护。不管是妈妈那温暖的臂弯，还是一把锯齿刀片，不管是心爱妻子的一个轻吻，还是一把手枪。为了安全感，我们不得不有所行动。因为我们知道世界上的某个地方，有想伤害我们的人。


313Yes, it can happen so quickly. Life as we know it can change in the blink of an eye.Unlikely friendships can blossom. Important careers can be tossed aside. A long-lost hope can be rekindled.Still, we should be grateful for whatever changes life throws at us, because all too soon the day will come when there are no changes left.是的，世事瞬息万变。转眼之间，面目全非。不可能的友谊可以开花结果，重要的事业可以放置一边，灰飞烟灭的希望可以重新点燃。不论如何，我们仍然要感激生活的改变，因为不久末日来临，就不在有任何改变了。


314Recapturing the past is a tricky business. While most memories are simply souvenirs of a happier time, others can be quite deadly.回顾过去不是件容易事，其中大部分是关于快乐时光的记忆，也有的可能是致命的。

317In every housewife's closet, there's an article of clothing that tells you more about its owner than she would want you to know. It might be a T-shirt that she despises but wears without complaint. Perhaps it's some lingerie, she knows isn't hers, but refuses to discuss... Or a dress she once loved, that she can no longer bear to look at this. You can learn a lot about women from what they choose to wear. You can learn even more by what they choose to take off, and who they take it off for.每个主妇的衣橱里，满满的都是关于着装的文章，记载着主人很多不为人知的细节。也许是一件T恤，她很不喜欢，却毫无怨言的穿上；也许是一件内衣，她明知不是自己的，却拒绝提起；也许是一件她曾经非常喜欢的长裙，可如今却再也不想看见。是的，女人决定穿什么，会让你知晓很多，但是如果知道她愿意褪去什么，为谁褪去，你会更加了解她的。

318It's so easy to spot the lonely ones.They're the people who tell stories to their plants, and whisper secrets to their pets, and have arguments with their TV, and the loneliest of all are the ones who talk to people who are no longer there.孤单的身影总是随处可见。他们向自己的盆栽倾诉心事，向自己的宠物分享秘密，和自己的电视机争吵不休，但最孤单的则是这样一类人，他们向亡者倾诉。


Passion. It's a force so potent we still remember it long after it's faded away. A drive so alluring it can push us to the arms of unexpected lovers. A sensation so overwhelming it can knock down walls we built to protect our hearts. A feeling so intense it resurfaces even though we try so hard to keep it buried. Yes, of all emotions, passion is the one that gives us a reason to live and an excuse to commit all sorts of crimes.激情，就算它在逝去很久以后，仍是让人如此难以忘记。它是如此强烈的诱惑，把我们推到意想不到的爱人怀中；它是无法抗拒的感情，击垮了我们修筑起来的保护心灵的高墙；它是那尽管我们如此努力的埋藏，却仍浮出水面的炙热情感。是的，在所有的情绪中，激情给了我们生活下去的理由，却也给我们了犯下各种罪刑的借口。

319Power, it's the type of thing most people don't think about, until it's taken away. Whether it's the political power of the many,or a lover's influence over just one. We all want some sort of power in our lives, if only to give ourselves choices. Yes, to be without choices, to feel utterly powerless, well...it's a lot...like being alone...in the dark.能量，多数人平日里毫不在意，直到有一天猝然消逝才会察觉。不论是大众的政治权力，还是恋人间亲亲我我的影响。人生中我们都需要某种能量，哪怕只是给我们一些选择。是的，假如连选择都没有，假如连一丝能量都没有，那么在黑暗中，蔓延开来的，就是无边无际的孤独。

320：Gossip--it's just a harmless form of recreation. It's careless talk that deals in polite fiction. It's nasty speculation that's based on not-so-polite fact. How do we protect ourselves from the venomous sting of such idle gossip? The best way is to just tell the truth.


321：Anyone can end up a victim...injured by the actions of others. But whether the damage is inflicted by a cunning ex-wife...or a blow delivered by the object of our affection...the time comes when we must pick ourselves up and continue on our journey. And if we can't, then all we can pray for...is rescue.人人都会末路逢凶，被他人所伤。但无论是被狡猾的前妻算计，还是被我们心仪的对象打击，我们都要站起来，收拾行囊，继续旅程。如果我们做不到，那就只有祈求，被救赎。

322：From the moment we wake up in the morning till our head hits the pillow at night our lives are filled with questions.Most are easily answered and soon forgotten，but some questions are much harder to ask because we're so afraid of the answer. Will I be around to watch my children grow up? Am I making a mistake by marrying this man? Could he ever truly love me? And what happens when we ask ourself the hard question and get the answer we'd been hoping for? Well, that's when happiness begins.从我们清晨醒来，到我们夜晚入睡，我们的生活充满了疑问。一些容易回答，也容易被忘记；有些问题却难以提出，因为我们害怕知道答案——我能否活着看到孩子们长大？我是否嫁对了人？他是否会真心爱我？以及，当我们终于开口问了问题，也得到了我们希望得到的答案，又会发生什么事情？幸福的生活将从此开始。


323：Family--there is nothing more important. They're the ones who show up when we're in trouble，the ones who push us to succeed，the ones who help keep our secrets. But what of those who have no family to rely on? What happens to those poor souls...who have no loved ones to help them in their hour of need? Well...most learn to walk life's road by themselves. But a sad few of us...simply...stop trying.家人，这世上最珍贵的风景。困难时他们突然出现；有意无意时他们助推成功；守秘时他们相依为伴。若无这方风景依仗，又将何去何从？那些孤寂的灵魂去往何方？渴求时却没有爱人肩膀，于是只能学着自己走完人生路。但总有可悲的人啊，却连尝试，都要放弃。




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It occurs after kids have left for school and husbands have headed off for work. It's a time when women think of the secrets they've been keeping from their friends. and how shocked they would be if the truth was discovered. and how they'll do everything in their power to keep that from happening.But what of those lucky women who have no secrets left to keep?these women spend their mornings thinking of their neighbors, and the secrets.they may be keeping.
每天早上的某个时段，孩子们上学去了，丈夫们上班去了，女人们就会思考没有与朋友共享的秘密，以及一旦东窗事发又是如何的耸人听闻，她们怎么尽力阻止那一切的发生，那些没有秘密的幸运女人们又如何呢?每天早上她们又在想什么?这些女人在早上想着他们的邻居，以及他们的秘密。

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There is nothing more deceptive than a smile, and no one knows this better than the people who hide behind them. Some flash their teeth as a polite warning to their enemies. Some put on beaming faces to keep their tears from falling. Others wear silly grins to mask their fear. But then there is that rare smile that is actually genuine.
笑容最具有欺骗性，藏在笑容背后的人更了解这一点，那些用露齿微笑礼貌警告敌人的人，那些用灿烂笑容来掩饰泪水的人，那些用咧嘴傻笑隐藏恐惧的人，但也的确有一些由衷的微笑。

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All children love games. But children grow up,and then they find new games to play. They pretend to be well so their families won't worry. They lie to their lovers about where they go in the afternoon. everyone has fun playing games, right up until the moment...Someone gets hurt.
爱玩是孩子们的天性，但孩子们会长大，开始玩新的游戏，他们把自己伪装的很好，他们的家人才不会担心，他们向爱人撒谎关于下午去了哪里，每个人都在游戏里自得其乐，直到一些人受到伤害

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pests-- they come in all shapes and sizes and disrupt our lives in a variety of ways. At first,they're merely annoying, and we do our best to ignore them. Home in my own bed.... but if we don't take them seriously, they can become quite dangerous. For some,death seems to be the easiest solution. But the problem with pests is that what they leave behind...is just as dangerous.
害虫--它们演变成不同的形态和大小，以各种各样的方式破坏我们的生活，一开始 它们只是让人生厌，我们只需要视而不见，但如果我们放任其行，它们就会格外危险，对一些人来说，死亡也许是最简单的解决方法，但是害虫之灾，在于后患，危机四伏。

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We try not to get too close to the people who live next door. It's easier to give them a polite nod than to ask what's wrong. it's safer to keep walking by than to get involved.... true,we sometimes do get to know the people we share a fence with and end up lifelong friends. But mostly,we keep our distance because we'd rather our neighbors know nothing about us...than know too much.
我们试着和住在隔壁的人保持距离，礼貌的点头致意比关心询问更容易，路过比卷入其中更加安全....事实上 有时我们去了解和自己共用一个篱笆的邻居，结成终身的友谊，但大部分时间 我们保持距离，因为我们更希望邻居对我们一无所知...而不是了如指掌。


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There is much to be afraid of in this world, but what we fear has nothing to do with gruesome masks or plastic spiders or lifelike monsters. No, it's the thoughts in our head that terrify us the most... What if she comes to regret her decision? What i he really is unhappy? What if the chance for love has passed forever? How do we conquer these terrifying thoughts? We start by reminding ourselves what does not kill us...Just makes us stronger.
这个世界上 让你害怕的东西太多了，但我们恐惧的不是可怕的面具，塑料蜘蛛 或者逼真的妖怪塑像，不 而是我们自己头脑中的想法...万一她后悔她曾经的选择，万一其实他并不开心，万一真爱永远错过，我们如果征服了这些可怕的想法，我们只能提醒自己 那些美好的事...才能让自己坚强

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Deception. you find it in all the best homes. Parents rely on it when dealing with inquisitive children. women use it to help keep secrets. big and small. Lovers neeeed it to cover up inconvenient accidents. Why do people resort to deception? Because it's a handy tool that helps get us exactly what we'relooking for.
谎言...存在于所有的温馨家庭里，家长们用来敷衍好奇的孩子，女人们用来隐藏大大小小的秘密，情人们用来掩饰不得已的意外，何以人们诉诸于谎言?因为谎言让我们更易接近内心深处的真实愿望。

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The past is never truly behind us. ghosts lurk in the shadows,eager to remind us of the choices we made. But if we look back,we might find an old friend with open arms... or an old enemy with a hidden agenda. Or a grown-up son with a forgiving heart... sadly,some of us refuse to look back, never understanding that by denying the past...we are condemned...to repeat it.
过去从未真正逝去，潜伏在暗处的幽灵，总让我们回忆起曾经的选择，但当我们回头看去就会认清，一个宽容热情的好友...或一个图谋不轨的旧敌...以及一个心怀悲悯的儿子，不幸的是 有些人拒绝回头看，他们永远不会懂得 否认过去...会注定让我们...重蹈覆辙

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it was supposed to be a beautiful day. but then the winds came and changed everything... and not just the houses and the lawns. The people had changed,too. while the storm had raged, each of them had learned something... about friendship... and forgiveness... and redemption. And some had learned the hardest lesson of all... that life is always fragile and very often...unfair.
这本该是很美好的一天，但狂风席卷 改变了一切，不仅仅是房子和草坪，连人们也改变了，暴风咆哮而来时，每个人都体会到了...友谊...宽恕...救赎，但有人却体会了最深的痛苦，那就是 生命很脆弱，而且常常...很不公。

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it had been seven days since a tornado devastated wisteria lane, and the residents continued to pick up the pieces of their lives. Some salvaged precious friendships. Some uncovered colorful histories. Others found challenges they hadn't expected. And then... there was one girl... who stumbled upon the truth she'd long been searching for... Only... to wish she hadn'T.
距离龙卷风袭击紫藤街已经七天了，居民们继续她们已经七零八碎的生活，一些人挽回了珍贵的友谊，一些人体会了曾经精彩的过去，一些人遭遇了出乎预料的挑战，还有呢...有一个女孩...偶然发现了她一直在寻找的真相...只是...她宁愿没有发现过

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Faith is a belief in something That cannot be proven. So we trust in the words Of the only father we've ever known. We believe the promises of the woman who shares our bed. We rely on the example of dear friends Who help us

看了许多科幻类的美剧，光怪陆离，引人入胜。却在《绝望的主妇》第五季播出时，只看第一集即发现最爱的依然是此剧。

过了大半年，播出的这一集甚是平淡，平淡地似乎让人感觉任何事都无波澜，只有时间静静地流淌。

是什么改变了我们的生活？故事发生在五年之后。

那个深爱的人，曾经兜兜转转离离合合终于在一起的人，如今却形同陌路，只在重见时刹那交错的眼神中或许还能找寻昔日的眷恋。而这眷恋也终究化成一个苍凉的背影，离门而去。此生难道真的只能是对方生命里的过客？SUSAN拿起一家人的幸福合影凝神，这个世界上原来并不是只有死亡才会让人分开。

容颜、体型，以往是生活的重心、人生的骄傲，如今却成了最大的梦魇。GABY一改前四季光彩照人的形象，镜中的人体形肥胖，不饰边幅。流年偷换，那个曾经只注重个人享乐的靓丽模特变成了平凡的家庭主妇、两个孩子的母亲，是毁灭？是新生？孩子或是安慰，可青春的身影也从此一去不返。

总是在为教育孩子而努力，甚至放弃过如日中天的事业；总是能解决生活工作中的各种问题，甚至包括战胜癌症。LYN能控制各种事情，只是无法控制孩子的成长，每次处理孩子的问题或者会有小小的胜利，可是孩子却最终向着另一条轨道前行。

以往的兴趣爱好不知不觉中变成了成功的事业，谁都认为BREE该是最幸运的，经过了前四季的磨难，上天也该眷顾她了吧。只是，当我们看到她的姓恢复了前夫的姓，知道她再一次当母亲的机会已被剥夺，终于明白，原来那成功的事业，不过是一种对绝望情绪的补救而已。完美、风光的背后竟仍是痛苦，也总是痛苦。

离开几年后又回到原来住的地方，EDIE依然光鲜。她结了婚，对丈夫温柔而顺从，成了名副其实的主妇。她不计前嫌，以一种愿意原谅其他主妇的姿态出现，等着其他主妇对她的道歉，得到的结果却是她被原谅了，很讽刺，也很可怜，她注定融入不了主妇圈。而那个她所依赖的丈夫却有着不可告人的秘密，不知道她的前方是什么样的悲剧命运。

时光流转，物是人非，或许是这一集最好的诠释。MIKE落寞的眼神，GABY忧伤的哭诉，BREE闪回的记忆，平淡的叙述之下掩盖不了迷失的惘然，掩盖不了难言的无奈，更掩盖不了锥心的疼痛。

是什么改变了我们的生活？想来不过是时间。它带走了我们所深爱的，所骄傲的、所拥有的，当我们发现，当我们感慨，当我们接受，我们便渐渐老去。一切无奈、一切绝望，希望能在时间中蒸发，却最终在时间中沉淀，深深地烙印在我们的生命中。既然无法挣脱，只能就把一切交给时间安排。

无意中看到央视8要播《绝望主妇》了，兴奋之余马上把消息告诉同事，她悻悻的跟我说去年就播过第一季啊，翻译很差并且很多删节，还是不要看了，要是想看第一季我借你盘。听后顿时感到自己对电视的陌生，似乎对这电脑看美剧才是天经地义，对这电视看连续剧就是从冥王星来得。
不管怎样，《绝望主妇》都是我力捧的美剧之一。而他的片头也独具特色，由油画、招贴画等组成，当然意义也是非凡的。

片头的第一个镜头是阿尔布雷特•丢勒Albrecht Durer (1471－1528)创作的名画《亚当和夏娃》。总所周知，夏娃受到蛇的引诱偷食禁果，遭受惩罚，奠定了女性在社会中的基本地位。原画是祭坛屏板的样式，把亚当和夏娃分别在两块狭长的竖板上。夏娃的动势很优美，富有舞蹈性，显示了女性的妩媚。亚当的裸体形象带着明显的古希腊风格倾向，他比夏娃似乎更内在一些，总的感觉是平静的。由于夏娃脸部呈现出微笑，反衬出亚当内心的惶惑。在《绝望主妇》中，亚当被写有Desperate Housewives的栽倒，夏娃接住了从树上掉下来的苹果，妩媚一笑，表现出这部电视剧将以女性为中心，女性占主导地位并更主动的掌控局面。




跨过亚当和夏娃，进入到埃及壁画阶段。代表男权的法老立起，但马上随着众多女性的站出而倒下，再一次展现了女强男弱的局势。




接下来的几组画面分别描述了剧中的四位女性。

《阿尔诺芬尼夫妇像》——Lynette

本来这张画并没有名字，在1934年，艺术史家帕诺夫斯基（Erwin Panofsky）根据16世纪的著录，将作品定名为《阿尔诺芬尼夫妇像》。他考证出画中二人的身份，并进一步说明了他们站立姿势的含义：男子的左手与女子的右手搭在一起，正好位于画面中心的位置，它表明婚姻的宣誓。当时，只要男女之间通过语言或者行动表达了彼此间的钦慕，便可以缔结合法的婚姻，即使没有见证人也能够生效。于是，画面中的所有信息似乎都能与结婚联系到一起：男子的右手竖在胸前，郑重宣誓；女子的左手放在小腹上，暗示对怀孕生子的期待；吊灯上的蜡烛以及地上的小狗，意味着彼此间的忠贞；而脱在一旁的鞋子表明这是圣洁之地；红色的床单、幔帐使室内看上去像一间新房，床头的木雕装饰讲的是圣•玛格丽特的故事，她在当时的信仰中也隐含着对孩子的渴求。尤其还不能忽略墙上的镜子，它正好在手的上方，表明呈凸形，映射出室内的全景。我们看到，在这对夫妇的前方，正有两个人从门里走进来，其中一位必定就是画家本人，因为在镜子与吊灯之间签着一行拉丁文字“Johannes de eyck fuit hic”，意为“扬•凡•爱克在场”，下面还有精确的时间，1434年。画家如同摄影师一样，为夫妻二人“拍”下一张结婚照，使每一位观众都处在见证人的位置，目睹了一次爱的宣誓。
在剧中，这幅画被乱搞了一番。阿尔诺芬尼先生将香蕉皮丢在了地上，阿尔诺芬尼太太挺着大肚子把香蕉皮清扫了起来。这暗指片中的Lynette夫妇，Tom在外工作不顾家，留下家里的一堆烂摊子给Lynette，搞得Lynette疲惫不堪。


《美国式哥特》——Bree

《美国式哥特》可以说是被恶搞率很高的一幅作品，《绝望主妇》恶搞起来也毫不示弱。在片头中，让原画中的爱荷华农夫“采野花”，而爱荷华太太却无力反击只能自己生闷气，化身为一盒罐头的商标。这暗指Bree夫妇。画里的两人刻板不苟言笑暗合Bree家的家规森严。然后男人被妖艳女勾引后笑了起来，而女人神色黯淡的封入罐头，和片中Rex出轨的情节也很相似。



《Am I Proud!》（《我自豪》）
这是一幅在二战期间很著名很著名的海报，在当时，毫无疑问的弘扬了女性精神，提升了女性地位。《绝望主妇》沿用了此精神，并且让海报中的女人遗漏了一个超级有名的罐头。



《Campbell's Soup Can》《坎贝尔的浓汤罐头》

《坎贝尔的浓汤罐头》是反映物欲年代的经典作品，已经成为美国的一种消费符号。片头的这幅图画，让我们感觉到其中的物欲横流，也让我们不由自主地联想到了Gabrielle。



《打》——Susan
Susan可谓是在其他三位女性中，感情生活最为年轻化混乱的一位。无乱什么男人的出现，都会给他带来伤害。图中被打得男人，不乱是她的前夫还是管道工，Susan得眼泪都是不止的。



最后的场景——四个主妇一人接住一个“禁果”并微笑。

《绝望主妇》片头出现的这些图画是按时代顺序出现的，先是神话时代的夏娃亚当、然后是古埃及、中世纪、上世纪初、最后是上世纪末，从夏娃到颇具霓虹色彩的美女，从砸倒亚当到爆打帅哥一拳，几幅名画稍作改变，俨然一部女性地位编年史，展示出人类历史进程中男女地位关系的变化。

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lipstick作名词表示“口红、唇膏”，作动词时表示“涂唇膏”。其他一些常用彩妆英语有：彩妆cosmetics，遮瑕膏concealer，粉底foundation，粉饼pressed powder，散粉loose powder，眉粉brow powder，眉笔brow pencil，眼线液liquid eye liner，眼线笔eye liner，眼影eye shadow，睫毛膏mascara，唇线笔lip liner，唇彩lip gloss，腮红blush，指甲油nail polish。 ★be uncalled for=唐突无礼的 ★ now that=由于，既然 ★ ask out=邀请外出，邀某人约会 ★ weird out=使人不自在 eligible bachelor=条件不错的单身汉 ★ divorcee=离异者（尤指女子） divorcee在这里指“离婚女人”伊迪，其复数形式为divorcees，以ee结尾的名词还有acceptee被接受的人，auditee受审核方、被审单位，donee受赠者，dedicatee受奉献者，nominee被提名者，refugee避难者，remittee汇款领取人，signee签名者，referee裁判员，loanee债务人等。 ★ loathe=厌恶、憎恨 loathe指“厌恶、憎恨”相当于dislike very much，近义词有hate、abhor、detest等。对应的形容词为loathsome，指“可恶的 ack up=支持，援助 once and for all=彻底地 很容易与award搞混的一个词是reward。award与reward作名词时都可以表示“奖励”，但reward还可ri 表 b由于提供如失踪人员信息、犯罪分子信息、失踪财务信息等而获得的“赏金”；也可以表示做了某事而得到的“回报” reward也可以做动词，表示“回报”。常用短语as a reward for指“作为……的报酬，作为……的回报”。

buck=美元 buck原意是“（雄鹿、公羊、雄兔、雄袋鼠等）雄性动物”，在非正式用法下表示“美元、澳元或年轻男人”。短语buck up表示“使振作、打起精神、加快”。 ★ turn in=（向警局）告发，出卖 这里turn him in指向扎克的父亲告发扎克的所在。turn oneself in指“自首”。 ★ in shape=状态良好，健康，身材好的 苏珊说的她当时in bad shape即指身体状况很糟。in shape为口语表达法，表示“状态好、健康，或者身材好”。 ★ play the...card=打……牌，使出……招 这里play the mom card是茱莉指责妈妈一直没有承担做母亲职责，却在这时端起妈妈的架子，耍妈妈的权威。play the...card指“打……牌、使出……招”。如play the human rights card打出“人权”这张牌，拿“人权”来说事。例如： Amnesty International often plays the human rights card. 国际特赦组织常常打出“人权”这张牌。 ★ accuse of=谴责，指责 accuse表示“谴责、归咎于”，含义与blame、criticize类似。短语accuse somebody of（not）doing意为“指责某人（没）干某事” ★ lean on=依靠 这里苏珊用lean on描述她曾经的状态，即她常常依赖茱莉帮她处理生活琐事，如打扫卫生，交水电费等。lean on表示“依靠、依赖”，通常还需要对方的支持和鼓励。

★ crush=迷恋 crush常在口语中表示“迷恋”，这种迷恋或好感常不为对方所知，所以也可以理解为暗恋.常用短语有：get a crush on someone迷恋某人；have a crush on someone迷恋某人。 Crush还表示“压扁、压碎”。如crush the empty can指“压扁空子”；常用被动态be crushed表示“使精神崩溃” 约会的最初阶段叫hang out，翻译起来叫“陪伴，约会，消磨时间”，其实就是出去玩。如果两人不熟，但一方对另一方有兴趣，就可以把另一方叫出来hang out，即出来玩，而不会直接问对方能不能date 在一个阶段内，一个人如果愿意，通常可以和几个人hang out，因为此时与约会对方的关系并不紧密。当然，普通朋友之间出来玩也可以叫hang out，比如各自有男女朋友，只是出去喝杯咖啡也可以叫hang out。在hang out之后，双方若感觉不错，就进入open date阶段。这一阶段女生和男生都对对方感兴趣，心存挂念，而同时又在左右摇摆，不太确定。open是“开放”的意思，顾名思义在约会的过程中约会人员不是封闭的，而是开放的。双方在open date阶段都可以与其他人约会。在与多人约会的过程中进行比较，看看与谁更合适，谁才是心中真爱。这也很符合美国自由、选择和竞争的社会状态。 open date之后，若找到了心里牵挂的真爱，就可以进入exclusive date阶段了。exclusive指“独有的、排外的、专一的”。这一阶段跟中国传统意义上的约会一样，要求约会双方专一、认真、不可儿戏，算是开始处对象了。不过即便到了这一阶段，约会的人之间一般也不称对方为boyfriend或girlfriend，而是friend或者date。 ★ lust after=对……充满色欲 lust作为名词表示“贪求、渴望、色欲”。lust for something表示“渴望某物” promotion表示“宣传、推销”，这里It's just a promotion from the Realto.指这封信是瑞尔多的促销广告，也就是很多人眼中的垃圾信件。常用短语有sales promotion 指“促销”，website promotion指“网站推广”，promotion code指“促销代码、优惠券”等。promotion还可以表示“推销中的产品”。promotion还有一个常用意思为“提升、晋级”

★ carton=硬纸盒 carton为名词，尤指“装食品或液体的硬纸盒、塑料盒.对话中的drink milk out of the carton指“喝盒装奶” ★ propose=求婚 propose为动词，在这里表示“求婚”。常用短语为propose to somebody或propose marriage to somebody，表示“向某人求婚”。此外，propose还可以表示“提议、建议”，后接名词或代词。 ★ given that=考虑到 given that常用来引导条件状语从句，意为“考虑到、鉴于” ★ alibi=托辞 alibi作名词时表示“辩解、托辞”，是美国口语用法。alibi既是及物又是不及物动词，表示“辩解，找借口”。短语alibi oneself 表示“为自己辩解” ★ marital=婚姻的 marital为形容词，表示“婚姻的、夫妻（间）的”。比如：marital history婚姻史，counseling in marital problems婚姻咨询，marital status婚姻状况。 ★ socialize with=和某人交往 socialize表示“交际、交往”，是不及物动词，若后接与谁交际则需加介词with，相当于associate with或者be in contact with。 ★ session=一次婚姻咨询 session含义有很多，基本含义为“持续的一段时间”，具体可以表示 会议（的一次）、（授课）时间、＜美＞学期/＜英＞学年、开庭（期间）”等。对话中的session则表示“一次婚姻咨询”。因为咨询医生私下里不和病人交往，所以他说treat this as a session是指把这顿饭期间的谈话当做他的一次专业咨询工作，是要收费的。session还有其他用法，例如： The court is now in session. 法院现在开庭。 The session begins on 1 September. 学期在9月1日开始。 ★ in one’s defense=为某人辩解 ★ act out=行为出格 act out 指“因为遭受痛苦的情绪（如恐惧或气愤等）而导致的行为出格或恶劣行径”。此时为不及物动词短语，后面不接宾语。 ★ foot=支付 foot在口语中表示“支付、承担费用”，例如： Do you really think mom and dad are going to foot the bill while you go moose hunting for seven years? 你要在外面晃荡七年，你真的觉得爸爸妈妈要一直负担你的费用吗？foot为不规则名词，复数为feet。foot的基本意思是“脚、足”，引申可表示“底部、底座、脚步、步伐、英尺”等。 ★ sponsor=推荐 sponsor可以做动词，在对话中表示“推荐”，其实sponsor更常见的动词含义是“赞助、发起、主办” 想法： ★ paranoid=类似妄想狂的；多疑的 paranoid做形容词时表示“类似妄想狂的、多疑的”，对话中雷克斯的意思是他只是想补偿一下孩子们受伤的心灵，对于收买孩子的心这件事完全是布丽瞎想出来的 ★ hit and run=肇事逃逸 这个短语非常直接，hit表示“撞人”，run表示“逃走”。这个短语即可以理解为名词短语，即肇事后逃逸的行为，如本段对话里的用法，a hit and run指“一次肇事后逃逸行为”。同时hit and run也可以当做形容词短语用。 in one’s possession=占有某物 ★ ground=禁足 ground在这里为动词，表示“禁足”，即家长禁止孩子在一段时间内出去玩乐，是一种常见的美国家长处罚孩子的形式 ground作为动词，还有其它含义，如“使停飞、（使）搁浅”。

★ household=家庭、一家人 household作名词指“家庭、一家人、同住一套房子的人”。head of the household指“一家之主”，即在一个家庭中负责做出重大决定以及赚钱养家的人household作形容词指“家用的”，如“家务”为household chores；区别于“酒店家具”hotel furniture的“家用家具”为household furniture。household作形容词还可以表示“家喻户晓的，大家熟悉的★ dignify=赞扬 dignify是一个及物动词，表示“抬高……的身价、美化”

★ decent=像样的、过得去的 decent为形容词，修饰物时表示“像样的、过得去的、体面的”。如decent life指“体面的生活”；a decent explanation指“一个像样的解释”；以及片段中的a decent meal“一顿像样的饭”。 Decent用来形容人时表示“正派的，规矩的。短语do the decent thing表示“识时务、做（不想做但）应该做的事”

★ from scratch=从零开始，白手起家scratch可做名词或动词，表示“抓、刮、擦”。如短语scratch the surface的基本含义就是“刮到表面、触及表面”，可以引申为“隔靴搔痒、浅尝辄止”

★ mincemeat=水果馅，（有肉或无肉的）甜馅，肉馅 mincemeat很明显是个合成词，mince作为动词表示“将（肉）切碎，剁碎”，meat就是“肉”的意思，所以mincemeat最初的含义就是“肉酱、肉馅”，如beef mincemeat指“牛肉糜”，frozen mincemeat指“速冻肉馅”。发展到后来，mincemeat变成由水果如苹果，或水果干等切碎混拌或不混拌碎肉的粘稠的东西，一般用来做水果派，也叫“甜馅或水果馅”。 ★ make mincemeat out of=彻底击溃 对话中胡贝尔夫人反复说到的make mincemeat out of 是美国俚语，表示“揍扁、打烂、彻底击溃” ★ nuts=疯子nuts作为形容词，还表示“狂热的、执着的”。短语 be nuts about something表示“对某物很狂热”。 ★ work out=圆满结束 work out是一个含义非常丰富的短语。work out还表示“想出、得到（解决方法）”，相当于come up with（a solution） ★ land=获得 land是一个非常常见的词，作名词表示“土地、陆地”，做动词表示 “登陆、降临”。但是在这部分对话里，land是一个及物动词，表示“获得”land还表示“（使）陷于某种境地”，这里的境地可以是抽象的，也可以是具体的 ★ pull the wool over one’s eyes=蒙蔽、欺骗 pull the wool over someone's eyes意思是“让人相信不真实的东西”。这个短语要追溯到男人戴假发的时代，就像现在英国法庭上法官戴的假发那样。wool这个词常用来戏指头发，如果把一个人的假发拉到盖住眼睛，他就什么都看不到，也就看不到真相了。所以，pull the wool over someone's eyes可以用来表达“蒙蔽、欺骗”的意思 ★ crap=废话 对话中的full of crap指“满嘴胡话、全是瞎说”。crap在这里是名词，是美国俚语的用法，表示“废话、胡言乱语的东西”。例如：That’s a lot of crap. 那真是一派胡言。美国人对话中常会说holy crap，这表示“很惊讶、很不能想象”的意思。这可以翻译成“天哪”。 ★ blackmail=勒索、敲诈 blackmail意为“勒索、敲诈”，既是动词又是名词。 ★ sneak=偷偷地走、溜走 sneak的基本意思是“潜行”，指狡猾地、间接地、偷偷摸摸地做某一件事或进（出）某地点而不被人所发现，常用于贬义。引申可指“以不正当的或明显欺诈的方法逃脱”，通常是困境。sneak与lurk都可以表示“偷偷地做某事”。其区别是：sneak强调的是一种动机，即希望保持不被别人注意的状态，不包括所采取的行动，它既可指严重的事件，也可指无害的事情，有时还指恶作剧或怯懦，而很少指构成威胁的犯罪活动；lurk则指秘密的或偷偷摸摸的行为，常有威胁性。短语sneak into 表示“（使）偷偷溜进某处”短语sneak away/off表示“偷偷溜走”，相当于leave secretly。