情系我心

well,I guess this is really hard for gay people to tell the truth to those they love the best.We just don't want to hurt them.When they seem to get hurt because of what we do or who we are,we escape,we run away from the truth and the feeling we keep so deeply in our heart.
Once I talked to my dad about gay issue and he thought that they do nothing but blowjob and anal sex.what could I say to him then?He understands nothing about being gay and this is probably the last thing in the whole world he wants to know of.
We just can't be understood.
It's the saddest thing in the world.

这个题材的电影，我可能看的并不多。我只是一个比大多数人爱看电影的人，没有一定要看的情感需求。看这部电影之前，也是当做爱情电影下载来的，不曾想能够让我如此感动。

在我看过的这类题材电影中，这真是少见的温馨。不是一味地渗析爱情，不是反复的宣泄歧视带来的痛苦，而是在我面前呈现了一个普通的少女，和她普通的家庭。结局令人欣喜，愿天下相同处境的人都能得到理解，而非偏执的爱。

我二十五年的人生，只接触过两次少数群体，都交往不深。所以实在不敢说明白他们的处境，理解他们的心情。我能想象的孤独也仅仅是在我自己的孤僻上放大而已，远远谈不上真实。所以，这背后的情感，我一个字也写不出来，除了祝福，别无他想。希望他们能够从这部电影中得到慰藉。

Can't imagine what I would do and feel if I am lasbine. Or what if my child is. It's right, sometimes, it's not you don't love your lasbine daughter or gay son, it's just because you are concerning that your child would live a harder life than what you have to. For gay, this world is really not a nice place, if coming into, just trying to make his/her life easier. Love differently, they still are the same person.

it's more a story about PFLAG than a lesbian puppy love story.

i really like Mrs. Wascott ,and Jane's mother is played by "Samatha" as in Sex and the City ?
BTW, Taylor is quite my type...


some fleeting pieces of my mind:

1)usually, u won't and can't die after ur bubbly first love has been dashed.but, u are changed, forever.
there is no way back.u r a different person ---which, is not necessarily a bad thing.

2)coming to terms with urself & what is true is the first step 4 everyone who loves differently.
it's damn hard , and yes, it takes time -- maybe a lot ,if u shall take one step forward then one back..
that's totally normal.still, u've got to do it.what matters is u must force ur true self into a corner,stare it down and really see ur own true color.then, no matter what ,try,try as if ur very life is hanging uopn it, to Accept ,instead of frantically painting it "normal".

3)4 oneself, ackowledge -- accept -- annouce/conceal
the bottom line for me is u can accept it urself.as to whether or not to come out, it is up to u.
and think twice before u do.it's not cowardice but prudence.
and in the meantime, better urself in any and every way.


4) when u do decide to come out, say,firstly and most importantly, to ur parents, be wise about the timing if u've got choice over it.
independence is a must, both financially and psychologically.

5) unless u r 100% sure, cut-and-dried sort of gay, in the current Chinese society, better straighten up , if u can.

however, it's always worth for a true love, which happens only once-in-a-lifetime.(and i'm talking about u,if u happen to see it, my Magpie~)


6)love ur parents, no matter what.
be nice to them.
but in my dictionary, fidel piety isn't synonymous with brainless obedience.
i'll try and fight for what i see as my happiness,with both sense & sensibility.

7) i never meant to hurt those two, my own and ur mom.
sorry.but sorry doesn't mean i won't do it again.

4 U , as long as u allow me to , a thousand times over.

16岁，按照东方或西方的法律，已属成年人的范畴，那意味者他或者她的生理和心理可能已经达到比较成熟的阶段，在这里我用“可能”这个词，是因为他或她的父母也许会觉得这还是个太年轻的年纪，年青到还没经历过花花世界的诱惑与挫折，而一个人的成熟往往是要付出代价的，这也是为什么父母们并不十分肯定他们已经成熟。
《情系我心》讲述的是一个16岁的女孩Jane的情感自我认知过程，在学校她遇到了改变她一生的女孩Talyor。说改变她一生，或许不太准确，因为Talyor的出现只是让她得以认知自我的一个诱因而已，Jane爱上了Talyor，两人亲吻的一幕被处于青少年叛逆期的弟弟窥视到，并恶作剧般的宣扬出去，于是，父母的疑问接踵而来。正如其他父母一样，他们把这一“荒唐”的行为归结于孩子的好奇。在经历了迷惑、彷徨、恐惧、担忧、自我否定等一系列心理过程后，她向父母出柜了，换来的是父母的愤怒和失望。出于母爱的天性，她的妈妈开始“劝说”Jane，希望以此来纠正她的“错误行为”。当然，最初的控制措施较为强烈，24小时的监护，并且禁止Jane出门。但这些都在青春期的叛逆情绪下土崩瓦解，父母甚至打算把她送到寄读学校，然而这一切却因为Jane的班主任Ms scotte的秘密峰回路转。无疑，编剧在此处给整个故事增添了看似无关紧要，实则是力挽狂澜的一笔，正是因为Scotte顶着可能被学校董事会开除且身败名裂的危险去劝说Jane的父母，才终于让Jane的父母在愤怒和激动的情绪中平静下来，并且尝试去了解女儿的内心世界。故事情节到了这里，主线似乎在发生转变，从最初女儿彷徨、纠结的情绪，改弦更张，成功转移到了母亲情感的挣扎，整个过渡没有一丝矫揉造作。从这点看来，les情结在本片只是一个引子，剧情的重点是两个人情感挣扎的历程。
剧中，编者对父亲和弟弟的润色较少，但无疑是不可或缺的，观众甚至会厌恶Jane的那个眼中无人，自以为是的弟弟，姐弟俩的关系是淡漠甚至是相互敌对的。当Jane把特意买给弟弟的冰淇淋递到他手里的时候，“其实那是个恶作剧，对吧？”这句简单的台词，融化了之前凝结在观众心中的那层坚冰，从而使整个人物形象发生逆转，其实他还只是个淘气的孩子，他前面留给观众所有的印象都被颠覆，同时，也暗示Jane的逐渐成长，16岁或许真的是一个分水岭。
影片的结局，正如片名一般，每个人都应该遵从自己内心的情感